Wednesday, May 13, 2015

Living a Life with FOMO

I just recently heard about this phenomenon a few weeks back when I was watching an incredible Youtuber who I adore, Ingrid Nilsen, during one of her #5MFU (five minutes for us) videos. And honestly, it was something I had never really thought of before but at the same time is something I am very aware that I struggle with.

Essentially what FOMO stands for is, The Fear of Missing Out.

Now up until I saw this video, I never really contemplated that this could be an actual issue, but now after hearing about it, I truly think it makes so much sense. The fear of missing out comes from a deep seeded insecurity inside of us that wants to feel included, wanted, and apart of the excitement. And then when we are left out of something we tend to feel worthless or less than.

In our rapidly growing, socially connected lives, not only do we have a fear of missing out on the next best thing, but we have constant reminders through pictures and tweets, of exactly what we are missing out on. The struggle is real people.

We start to look at other people's photos and think, why wasn't I invited to that dinner? Or I can't believe I wasn't able to make it to that festival! (I'm talking true life experiences here.) It's difficult to feel as if you are missing something fun or are unwanted from an event.

I personally struggled with this from time to time while living in Uganda. I would be having a blast with my friends and roommates, and then an insta pic would pop up of all the fun people were having at home and I would start to feel like I was missing out.

It was in those moments that I had to remind myself that God had me on the journey he created for ME. And yes I may be missing a few things from home, but I wasn't called to be in those experiences. I was called to experience Uganda in that season and God's planned placements are better than the ones I could ever create for myself. 

In the book of Jeremiah it says,

"For I know the plans I have for you,'
declares the Lord,
'Plans to prosper you and not to harm you,
plans to give you hope and a future."

If God's plans are to prosper me, then who am I to fear missing out on things that are not in His plans. Not getting invited to that dinner party could very well mean that God is using that time for other people to get life poured into them by their hostess. And honestly it has nothing to do with me. Or missing out on that festival means I'm in the midst of creating other relationships or experiences that will enhance my life in an even greater way. 

We may never know on this side of heaven, exactly why God is directing us towards the activities and adventures He has called us to and why there will be some that we will never get to be apart of. All we can be sure of, is that if God is in it, there is a reason for it. And that is something we should celebrate, not be in fear of. 

Now I know, even writing this to ya'll in this moment, that I am not magically cured of FOMO. There are pieces of me (mainly the insecurity monster) that will continue to struggle with this as life continues. But I am so glad to know that when that little bit of fear starts to creep up my spine, I can confidently turn around and whisper, "God is in control, and He knows the plans He has for me. So bug off!"

In what ways do you struggle with FOMO? How has God used those situations for good in your life?
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